When is Eating Disordered?
Recovery from Eating Disorders

Mirror on the Wall
Studies show that 80 percent of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance. In fact, Americans spend more than $40 billion on diet-related products each year. Meanwhile, a national obesity epidemic is in full swing with fully 65 percent of American adults overweight.

Eating disorders of all types—from Anorexia and Bulimia to Binge eating and Obesity—are on the rise among children, teens, women, men, and athletes. Because eating disorders are one of the few psychiatric disorders you can directly die from, it’s critical to understand why your eating is disordered and take active steps for recovery.

While symptoms and behaviors may differ between specific disorders, they are all disorders of self-regulation. Even though an Anorexic individual may withhold food intake while an obese person may binge, both actions are unhealthy responses to emotional triggers and stresses.

When individuals don’t have the skills to manage feelings like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or emotional pain, they can develop disordered eating as a way to cope. Eating disorders are dangerous. Get help today.

Types of Eating Disorders
Anorexia Nervosa—Anorexic Individuals consider themselves fat no matter what their weight is. They are perfectionists and use food to gain control because they feel out of control. This disorder of excessive dieting will kill between 10 percent to 20 percent of sufferers. Symptoms include noticeable weight loss, excessive exercise, obsession with calories, and excuses for not eating meals.

Bulimia Nervosa—Bulimic Individuals binge eat and then purge by vomiting or laxative abuse. They have low selfesteem or may not feel like they fit in. They use food as a source of comfort. Symptoms include: secretive eating, bathroom visits after eating, tooth decay, and substance abuse.

Binge Eating Disorder—Binge eaters consume large quantities of food until they are uncomfortably full. While similar to Bulimia, binge eaters do not purge. During an episode, they feel out of control and shame or guilt afterwards. They use food as a way to block out feelings. Symptoms include: weight gain, low-self esteem, fluctuations in weight, or going on many diets.

Compulsive Overeating—Compulsive overeating is characterized by uncontrollable eating and weight gain. This eating pattern usually starts in childhood as a way to block feelings instead of learning coping skills. Some use being overweight as a way to keep others at a distance. Symptoms include: depression, binge eating, and withdrawal from activities because of embarrassment about being overweight.

What You Can Do Right Now
Understand the feelings.
When your eating is disordered, something is going on inside you that you can’t resolve. Learn what the mood or feeling is so you can focus on resolving it instead of resorting to destructive food behaviors.

Read up. If you suspect you or someone you love has an eating disorder, educate yourself. Look for books or websites that offer a quick self-test of signs and symptoms. 

Role model for children. Talk about healthy eating and watch for cues in children and teens that their eating might be disordered. Offer children nutritional meals instead of empty calories. Teach them to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full.

Commit to recovery. Recovery from an eating disorder requires a high degree of commitment. It may involve medical supervision, a nutritionist, and family therapy in some cases.

Find the right therapist. Look for therapists with training and experience in eating disorders as well as someone who is warm, supportive, and goal-oriented. Use short telephone interviews to shop for a good fit with potential therapists. Ask about availability, fees, if they accept your health insurance, and how they approach problems like yours.

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Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs) are relationship experts. They work with individuals, couples, families, children, adolescents, and the elderly, providing support and perspective as patients struggle with life’s challenges.

Licensed by the State of California, MFTs are psychotherapists who are uniquely trained and credentialed to assess, diagnose, and treat a wide range of issues so individuals achieve more adequate, satisfying, and productive relationships and social adjustment.

The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) is an independent statewide non-profit organization made up of nearly 30,000 practicing marriage and family therapists. CAMFT is dedicated to advancing marriage and family therapy as a healing art, science, and mental health profession. In fact, CAMFT sponsors CounselingCalifornia.com so Californians can gain access to qualified local experts who can help.

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Seeking a Marriage and Family Therapist or other mental health professional to assist with life’s difficulties is a sign of courage and a step in the right direction. Always ask about a therapist’s special areas of expertise (i.e. anger management, Autism, relationship counseling) before you engage them to ensure it’s the right fit for you.


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Karen L. Kleckner, MA
Karen L Kleckner, M.A..

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Walnut Creek, CA

At the core of many personal issues lie old messages of your sense of worth. Those messages conveyed to you while growing-up that minimized your self-esteem. The journey inward toward your past can often be frightening and disheartening. By slowly revisiting the wounded part of yourself, old repetitive behaviors can cease to exist. A new sense of kindness toward yourself will begin to emerge. Allow me to travel with you to discover what is buried deep inside of your soul, exploring what keeps you from becoming all that you want to be.

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