Therapist Profile

Name:
Adrian Tiller, M.S.
Professional Title:
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Email:
Location:
1025 5th Street Novato, CA 94945
Phone:
(415) 408-3741
Location:
2120 Market St. (at Church) San Francisco, CA 94114
Phone:
(415) 408-3741
Website:
License Number
LMFT25896
Practicing Since:
1990
Additional Licenses:
MFT

Personal Statement

Personal Statement:

HOW TO SURVIVE TOXIC PARENTS

Were you constantly criticized as a child?
Were your parents' needs more important than your own?
Did your mother or father demand love and affection—but gave little in return?

Narcissistic. Borderline. Self-absorbed. Toxic. Call them what you will, wounded parents create wounded children. And these children grow up without the basics of warmth and kindness, safety and stability.
In order to survive, we adapt and bend to the needs of our all-powerful parents. If that means we learn to parent our parent, that’s what we do. If we have to develop antennae to read the emotional climate and quickly shift to the rapidly changing moods in a chaotic home, so be it.
Our young hope (and need) goes something like this: If I do and say the right thing, if I support this wobbly person, if I give enough long enough, then one day . . . one day . . . s/he will be strong enough to adequately take care of me.
But what if that day never arrives? We can spend our entire lives seeking what we never got from our parents. We may attract spouses who are carbon copies of our caregivers. Expecting criticism, we perceive others’ innocent remarks as attacking or devaluing. Or maybe we’re never satisfied with the amount of attention, approval and reassurance we get.
Are your parents still running your life? Are you still trying to please them—even if they’re deceased? Are you trying to figure out who you are and what you want out of life? Are your relationships scattered with minefields?
Therapy is a way to find answers and chart a new course. Set limits and teach others how to treat you. To resolve the past, create goals and move forward.
I do more than just listen and say, “Um huh,” or “How does that make you feel?” My approach is pragmatic and straightforward. We work together to set goals and stay on task. I offer suggestions and feedback. And I’ve been doing this work for over twenty years.

About My Practice

Office Hours
Monday through Friday - 3:00 pm to 9:00 pm, By Appointment
Services
Couples Counseling Individual Psychotherapy
Insurance
Most Insurance Accepted
Credit Cards Accepted
American Express, Discover, MasterCard, Visa
Free Initial Consult
No
Offers Teletherapy
Online, Phone

Education

Degrees
M.S., Counseling, University of Tennessee, 1977

Area of Specialty

Specialites:
Anxiety
Communication Skills
Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Questioning
Self Esteem/Personal Growth

Other

Theoretical Orientation
Behavioral
Brief/Solution Focused Therapy
Cognitive
Communications
Psychodynamic
Certifications
Languages Spoken
English
Ethnicity
Caucasian (Non-Hispanic)

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