Therapist Profile

Thedy Veliz
Professional Title:
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
334 Village Lane Los Gatos, CA 95030-7218
(408) 412-9530
License Number
Practicing Since:
Additional Licenses:
Marriage and Family Therapist Registered Intern

Personal Statement

Personal Statement:
Veliz is a Marriage and Family Therapy Registered Intern #71980 in private practice in Los Gatos, CA and is being supervised by Gillian G. Sands, MFT. Veliz is currently working with children, adolescents, families and individuals who are experiencing symptoms caused by relational and emotional problems including depression, stress and anxiety, trauma, self-esteem, marital conflict, behavioral problems (e.g., irritability, defiance, oppositionality), academic performance, lack of motivation, loss of meaning, peer pressure, boredom, self-harm behaviors, bullying (for the bully and for the bullied) anger management, hyperactivity, impulsivity, grief and loss, family transitions (e.g., recent moves, separation, divorce, blended and step- families, new born children). Veliz combines 15 years of experience in the business world with his most recent education and training in counseling and human development to provide children, adolescents and their caregivers with services that focus on increasing children’s security and ability to self regulate their emotional states by helping caregivers to understand and attend to the relational content of their children’s behavior. Veliz has been working with a diverse population of children, adolescents, and their families in private practice, school and community agency settings. Therapeutic Approach I use a “bio-psycho-social” approach by drawing on the latest research findings in diverse fields of knowledge including attachment theory; affective and developmental neuroscience; regulation theory, emotional intelligence; management and leadership science; human motivation (e.g., self-determination theory); applied psychology (social, developmental, personality); epigenetics; complex and developmental trauma; and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology developed by UCLA psychiatrist Daniel Siegel, MD to assist children, adolescents, individuals and their families take advantage of brain plasticity to reduce the challenges that motivated them to seek counseling while repairing and improving important relationships in their lives. Two-Person Psychology By facilitating the development of a “two-person psychology” as a major component of treatment, I help my clients improve their view of themselves and of other people in their lives by facilitating the integration of information and processes that reside in different parts of the brain (e.g., right-left, upper-lower) while helping them weave a narrative of their life story which includes references to past and present, good and bad, success and failure, dependence and independence; and that welcomes the entire realm of human emotions (e.g., sadness, anger, happiness, shame, fear, empathy). Parenting Techniques I help parents develop and implement relational parenting techniques by building and maintaining children's sense of security to increase their future life success (i.e., “the good life”) through a continuous and strong trusting relationship while focusing on and understanding the emotional content of their thoughts and behaviors. Parenting techniques that have influenced my work include those developed by Daniel Hughes, PhD, creator of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy; and Stanley Greenspan, MD, creator of the Floortime Approach. My therapeutic approach has been influenced by the application of neuroscience findings to relational psychotherapy as explicated by the work of Allan Schore, PhD, who is a leading researcher in the field of neuropsychology and the current editor of the Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology. Special Research and Clinical Interests My research interests include how environmental stress (i.e., adverse childhood experiences) affects the proper functioning of our major organic systems (e.g., stress response, neurological, endocrinological, metabolic, immunological, cardiovascular, gastrointestinal) across the lifespan and generations; and its influence on our individual and collective (i.e., societal) emotional, mental and physical well-being. In this area, I have been influenced by the epidemiological studies on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) whose initial phase was led by Robert Anda, MD and Vincent Felitti, MD from 1995 to 1997 at Kaiser Permanente in San Diego. In addition, I follow the academic research on how developmental differences between boys and girls affect pathways of normal development; how environmental stress affects learning, cognitions, and behaviors; and how environmental stress affects creativity, social innovation and leadership potential. Finally, I have a special clinical interest in facilitating relationship repair and development between adolescent boys and their parents especially with their fathers.

About My Practice

Office Hours
I currently work with children, adolescents, families, and individuals who are experiencing symptoms caused by relational and emotional challenges including depression, stress and anxiety, trauma, self-esteem, marital conflict, behavioral problems (e.g., irritability, defiance, oppositionality), academic performance, lack of motivation, anger management, hyperactivity, impulsivity, grief and loss, and family transitions (e.g., recent moves, separation, divorce, blended and step families, new born children).
No Insurance Accepted, Private Pay
Credit Cards Accepted
Free Initial Consult
Offers Teletherapy


Veliz has a masters in counseling psychology from Santa Clara University, a masters in business administration (MBA) from the University of Notre Dame, and a bachelors in mechanical engineering from Iowa State University.

Area of Specialty

ADHD-Attn Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
Anger Management
Attachment Therapy
Avoidant Personality
Career Stress and Changes
Childhood Trauma
CoDependant/Adult Children of Alcoholics
Communication Skills
Depression/Clinical Depression
Domestic Violence
Employment Issues
Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming
HIV Related
Issues of Abuse (Abused)
Issues of Abuse (Offenders)
Issues of Abuse (Trauma)
Life Transitions/Mid-Life Issues
Men's Issues
Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder
Play Therapy
Post Traumatic Stress Disorders
Sexual Dysfunction
Self Esteem/Personal Growth
Single Parents
Step/Blended Families
Sand Tray Therapy
Working With Therapists


Theoretical Orientation
Family Systems
Object Relations
Self Psychology
Languages Spoken
English, Spanish

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